|Image found HERE. Quote by Lauren Zuniga|
It's all fat girls with bright hair and big smiles wearing skimpy clothes because they love what they look like and that's a bad thing, of course, because if you're fat you're unhealthy. If you're unhealthy you should absolutely hate that about yourself.
So I'm here to debunk three things about that sentiment:
- Body Positivity is just about fat girls.
- You have to hate yourself in order to strive for health.
- Someone else's body is any of your business in the first damn place.
|Photo of the "deliciously disabled" Andrew Morrison Guzra via NowToronto|
|"Comfort Slut II" by rupeegroupie via Flickr|
|Photo of Jessamyn Stanley for SLINK Jeans, Via her Facebook|
I haven't been as driven to exercise in my life as I have post-discovering the idea of Body Positivity. I've lost some weight although my weight has fluctuated over the past few years, but I'm eating better and walking more, and I'm slowly cutting the things that end up making me feel sluggish and unwilling to move out of my diet. More importantly, I'm cutting words like "too big"and "unattractive" out of my diet too.
Today's outfit, with skirt courtesy of @eastendthriftstore and their last pound sale! #ootd #southbank #london #vintage #flowercrown #melanin #blackgirls #denim #redlips On my old blog I remember having a post ranting about what fat girls should and shouldn't wear, and now I wear crop tops and short shorts. If it fits and it makes me look good to myself, I can wear it, and I can look cute in it too. It's difficult when you grow up with this feeling of looking the wrong way and not being "enough" (thin enough, pretty enough, light enough, cute enough...) you get stuck in that world of self-hate. The thing is, that can fester in a person's soul and make them stagnate. Or, worse still, make them approach change in an unhealthy way.
"Maybe all I can be is fat and useless."
"Maybe I'll never be attractive to anyone."
"Maybe I should just not try."
"Maybe I should fix myself as fast as possible, damn the consequences."
I've thought every single one of those things at one point or another in my life, and so have many others. But what if we all just started off knowing that, honestly, we are good enough. Better than that even. What if we didn't subscribe to this idea that health and beauty are narrow slots we all have to jam ourselves into tirelessly until we hurt ourselves or give up on everything?
Take it from me: don't worry. I am perfectly capable of being in charge of the health and wellbeing of my fat self, my skinny friends don't need you to tell them to eat a sandwich, my friends with skin conditions don't need to cover up, my hairy friends don't need to shave, and my muscular friends don't need to "tone it down".
We're all managing just fine on our own, thanks.
|Still from new H&M Advert 2016|